You'll recall the last time we talked about this that I pointed out my arrangement for the exchange of the books wasn't actually with you. It was a favor I had negotiated with Kaveh. You've presently offered no justification for why I should indulge you a favor, and you certainly haven't offered payment in kind so it's not a transaction for valuable consideration.
You have my book out of sheer kindness. Kindness which, I'll hasten to point out, you don't seem to have any interest in extending. That's fine. You're not obligated to. In fact, you've proved the point I was arguing the other day, which is that the only reason I matter to anyone is for what I'm able to do or deliver to them.
But Kaveh was relentless in insisting that I have some sort of inherent personal worth, which follows in part that I can presumably do better than to expend my time on people who aren't going to treat me as anything more than a convenient dispenser for the things they want from me. And so I've decided to see what it feels like if I presume for a minute that he's right.
Putting aside your argument with Kaveh for a moment: your stance is that I am unkind because I have decided not to divulge to you a matter that is both personal and private between Kaveh and I. In that, you consider personal worth to be equal with entitlement to other's affairs, since that's the only thing you've asked of me so far.
My stance is that I am trying to TALK TO YOU because I thought maybe there was the chance that we could be friends but the only thing I know to talk to you about is Kaveh but you don't want to talk about him and you also don't seem to want to talk about anything else either.
So I can only conclude that you don't want to talk to me at all, and just want my books.
We just has a discussion about the properties of stew in tandem. Or is that not divested enough from Kaveh that you think there's nothing else to me? I obviously don't want to talk to someone I don't know well about this matter.
Did you come to me looking for friendship because Kaveh directed you to me?
To be clear: I'm uninterested in any "game" with you because at the moment all I've gotten from you in this conversation is you having a fit because you feel that your desires for friendship are worth more than my privacy.
That Kaveh didn't tell you anything more despite his chronic oversharing was a sign to you that this is a sensitive matter. If you're looking for some friends, perhaps don't start off with needling people about their other relationships in your second conversation.
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Then I suppose I'm keeping the current one indefinitely?
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You'll recall the last time we talked about this that I pointed out my arrangement for the exchange of the books wasn't actually with you. It was a favor I had negotiated with Kaveh. You've presently offered no justification for why I should indulge you a favor, and you certainly haven't offered payment in kind so it's not a transaction for valuable consideration.
You have my book out of sheer kindness. Kindness which, I'll hasten to point out, you don't seem to have any interest in extending. That's fine. You're not obligated to. In fact, you've proved the point I was arguing the other day, which is that the only reason I matter to anyone is for what I'm able to do or deliver to them.
But Kaveh was relentless in insisting that I have some sort of inherent personal worth, which follows in part that I can presumably do better than to expend my time on people who aren't going to treat me as anything more than a convenient dispenser for the things they want from me. And so I've decided to see what it feels like if I presume for a minute that he's right.
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Is that correct?
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So I can only conclude that you don't want to talk to me at all, and just want my books.
Is THAT correct?
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Did you come to me looking for friendship because Kaveh directed you to me?
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Here's an idea. How about we play a game and the next person to mention his name or bring him up in any capacity loses.
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To be clear: I'm uninterested in any "game" with you because at the moment all I've gotten from you in this conversation is you having a fit because you feel that your desires for friendship are worth more than my privacy.
That Kaveh didn't tell you anything more despite his chronic oversharing was a sign to you that this is a sensitive matter. If you're looking for some friends, perhaps don't start off with needling people about their other relationships in your second conversation.
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